As we wander through our lives searching for meaning and connection, we find ourselves twisted up in delicate threads of inchoate trust, and earnest bids for intimacy. We stumble over craggy edges of misunderstanding and judgement, vanity and selfishness. Reckless and blind, we cast our soft-hard hearts into every bliss and danger—and in our desperate thrashing, we too easily miss too much. We discover ourselves time and again in the desert. Wounded and wounding. Small. Alone.
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This leg of the journey is about fearlessness and discovery. When we embark on a new path toward connection, we can’t yet see what obstacles lie ahead. We begin with a sense of excitement—a thrill at the newness of it all. As we move forward, we start to realize things are much more complicated than we originally thought. but with faith, fearlessness, and perhaps a bit of naivety, we commit to continue.
the hallowed wide
The Hallowed Wide is the name I’ve given to the sacred space between ourselves and others, or our current selves and the versions of ourselves we’re trying to grow into. It’s the messiness of vulnerability, trust, and intimacy. Within this particular song, we harness up our fear with an equal measure of exhilaration and now-or-never-ness and fly blind into brand new terrain.
I wanted this song to feel sort of like standing on the end of a high diving board (or the initial crest of a roller coaster, or an open airplane door). That tightness in your throat and belly, the adrenaline, the tunnel vision, the muffled hearing…but a deep-down sense that whatever is ahead will be well worth the plunge. I hope you feel that final build toward the end of the song. And as the drums drop out in the final moments, imagine the ground falling away, as well. Imagine the flip-flopping feeling of a no-turning-back-now plummet. Once you step into The Hallowed Wide, you can’t come back the way you came…
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This time, the cold and wasted wilderness feels different somehow. Impatient. An unexpected defiance builds, starting in your fingertips then extending to your heart, your throat, and down through the bones in your legs. You’re struck with a thought that feels strangely new and innate. There must be another way…
Suddenly, you feel smooth stone underneath your feet and the eerie glow of a twilight moon on your brow. You’re standing at a precipice veiled in thick fog. You peer over the edge. Filled with a frightful curiosity, gripped by palpable urgency—breathless, you close your eyes and begin to climb.
…SONG DIARY…
For all of my fellow music nerds (or anyone!), I’ve recorded a special podcast episode to explain the writing of each song, in depth. I get into the nitty gritty of the harmonies, melodies, forms (all of the music-specific stuff), and also the personal background and meanings of each song. They’re…pretty intimate! If you want to go alllll the way in with me, I’d love to have you. I hope you enjoy these!
bitter roots
From our new vantage point, we see things we couldn’t before. I wrote this song early in June 2020, in the wake of George Floyd’s murder. So, a lot of what’s here in the lyrics feels like a call specifically to responsibility for white Americans—a call to look in the mirror and reckon with what we can too easily choose to ignore.
That said, bitter roots are thriving underneath so many structures, large and small. Our family systems are too often built upon foundations that unequivocally prevent true connection and trust. Maybe our partner relationships have roots that cannot sustain healthy growth. Or maybe we harbor ugly lies about our own identities that prevent us from allowing ourselves to love and be loved.
I think it’s easy to tell ourselves that because these roots are buried, we can ignore them, move past them, move on. Or sometimes we fool ourselves into thinking that some decoration and ornamentation (rationalization and apologetics) can overcome a rotten core. Of course, this kind of strategy will never work. The festering will ooze out somewhere. So before we can mend or build a single thing, we have to cut out every last bit of what is rotten in ourselves, and in our systems. We have to learn to see it, and we have to take action to remove every last tendril.
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Clinging to tangled roots and jagged shale, you descend. Each new strangling snarl calls to mind the dark truths you’ve been heretofore determined to overlook. Prejudice, blame, conspiracy, corruption. Seeing it all up-close this way, you heartily resolve to follow each hateful spore to its contemptible end, to pull up every writhing curl from its dark and squalid safety, setting it to wither in sterile air.
…SONG DIARY…
quicksand
The Descent isn’t all doom and gloom, of course. There’s something delicious about a plunge into the unknown. This song is meant to capture the thrill of a new connection. Fully aware of our unsteady footing, we let the mystery wash over us completely. We dive in recklessly. We abandon our proverbial shelter for even the most fragile shot at intimacy.
I love the way Joni Mitchell captures this feeling in her incredible song “I Don’t Know Where I Stand.” The uneasiness is palpable. I imagine Quicksand as a less measured iteration of this feeling. Will you emerge as the protagonist of this story? Or will you discover yourself merely a minor plot-propeller for the hero? You don’t know, and you don’t care. The intrigue is worth everything. You’ll eagerly assume the risk for the exquisite tension of this single moment. There’s hardly a more alluring feeling in the entirety of the human experience.
This is the final piece of the “descent” into The Hallowed Wide. It’s a wholehearted surrender, if beautifully naïve—we imagine this will be the most difficult part of our journey, that we’re taking the final step, but we’re really just beginning…
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As you step onto the damp canyon floor, you feel a sort of thrill at what you’ve conquered. You imagine you must be through the worst of this portentous enterprise. You take in the scene, washed in wide-eyed ease. The glow of the misty marsh feels like a new and heedless love. Beguiled, you move forward without a second thought…
…SONG DIARY…
…EXTRAS…